Recently I have adopted a mantra of ‘all of my unhappiness comes from judgment’. This isn’t exactly true, but it is right, in a way. But better said would be ‘that which moves me out of equanimity is judgment’. I am not sure if I am more judgmental than other people, or I am just aware of how often I judge, but I do it constantly. I don’t see one thing – ‘car cuts me off’ – without adding a judgment to it – ‘license plate if from (fill in a state)/probably some (state-based judgment) yokel’. ‘Car cut me off’ is a simple fact. ‘Car cut ME off’ is a thought that throws off my balance.
This is all evolving, changing, growing. Today’s words are not going to be right tomorrow. But for today….
- What is, is
- When my wanting is different from what is, my ego reacts
- When I judge anything, my equanimity is lost